In a nutshell: big decluttering purges get rid of stuff in the moment but they can make you overwhelmed and exhausted and they generally don’t stick
It sounds great in theory – pull all your clothes out, lay them on the bed, spilling onto the floor if needs be then start to go through them one by one – making boxes or piles for ‘keep’, ‘bin’ and ‘donate’. In reality though I’ve found it a bit different.
I get overwhelmed
When faced with a huge pile of things to sort through I have a tendency to shut the door on it and run away. It’s all too much, seeing it in a huge pile paralyses me and even though I know how to start (just start) I can’t do it. I get stuck.
I get over enthusiastic
Going through a huge pile of paperwork once I started to just chuck out handfuls, including my birth certificate. It’s a pain having to get a replacement when you need one.
I’ve done deep declutters in the summer and totally forgotten that I need jumpers in the winter. I realise this sounds like I am stupid but I got carried away in the process – asking myself – have I used it recently resulted in a ‘no’ and my brain told me to put it in the charity shop bag.
Faced with a large number of bin bags for the charity shop I am likely to avoid taking them for so long that I forget what is in them. Then I’m at risk of going through them in case I’ve changed my mind.
I try to avoid them for this very reason but the very sniff of a car boot sale results in almost instantaneous recluttering. Bargains are hard to resist.
I feel resentful
In the judging process when I’m going through my things and working out if I ‘should’ keep them or not I start to feel resentful on many levels. Why shouldn’t I keep it? Why can’t I live a minimalistic lifestyle like they do on the internet? Why do I have so much stuff?
The reason behind all this is because I’m not a minimalist and never will be. I love my stuff and yes, I should be able to keep it if I like it, even if it’s not at all useful, slightly broken and doesn’t look that nice – If I genuinely like it then yes, I should keep it. My home is filled with things that mean something to me, that have happy memories, that are used often and that I like.
The solution for me is to make decluttering a habit. I’m continually filling up a box for the charity shop by adding just a few things a day. I do my best to operate a one in 2 out principal (especially with books) and when the box is filled I get it out of the house as soon as possible
Decluttering doesn’t need to be horrible. It can be easy, painless and even fun. Make a game of it, reward yourself frequently, give yourself stars for getting rid of just 5 things for 5 days a week. It mounts up to thousands of things over the year and this way sticks.
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